Key Takeaways
- 1Trust grows when you look for how a change helped you instead of only seeing how it annoyed you.
- 2Solo time feels less lonely when you turn it into a ritual and stay rooted in why you are there in the first place.
- 3A city is not automatically toxic or safe, the people you are around and the version of you that shows up there make the difference.
- 4Habits like movement, real food, and creative work keep your life steady even when your schedule looks chaotic.
- 5You do not have to control every detail, you just have to keep acting like things are allowed to work out in your favor.
If you have ever typed “how to trust that everything will work out” into Google while staring at your life like a messy bedroom, hi, welcome. This Atlanta vlog looks like workouts, coffee, photo shoots, friends, and traffic. Underneath all of that, it is really about learning to stay calm when plans change, letting life be flexible, and still deciding that everything always works out in your favor.
I have been sharing my life and mindset online for over ten years, so you are not the first person to watch me figure things out in real time.
What does “everything always works out in my favor” look like in real life?
People love that affirmation until it is time to actually live it.
During this trip, things did not line up perfectly:
- My hair was doing its own thing at the gym
- Friends ran late
- Traffic was wild
- A shoot time moved
- Outfits were not fully planned
- I needed gas, food, lashes done, and outfits packed with a clock ticking
Old me would have spiraled. New me still feels the stress for a second, then reminds myself: “Everything always works out in my favor.” Not in a fake, delusional way. More in a “let me see how this might actually be helping me” way.
When my shoot moved from 2 to 4, that could have felt annoying. Instead, it turned into:
- Extra time to finish editing my podcast
- Time to fix my lashes
- Time to figure out outfits so I felt confident on camera
Same situation, new story. That is the real shift.
How do you stay calm when plans keep changing?
Here is the thing: your plans will change. Your friends will run late. The GPS will reroute for the third time. Something you thought would take 20 minutes will suddenly steal an hour.
On this trip, I used a few mental rules that keep me grounded:
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Assume the schedule is a little flexible.
I expect at least one thing to move around. That way I am not shocked when it happens. -
Ask “How could this be working for me?” instead of “Why is this happening to me?”
Shoot moved later? Cool. Now my makeup can turn out better. Friend is running late? Great. Time for a voice memo to myself, a quick scroll for inspo, or a deep breath. -
Keep the main priority clear.
The goal of this trip was content, connection, and experiences that match who I am now. As long as those pieces hit, the exact timing matters less.
Try this next time something shifts: instead of panicking, literally say out loud, “Okay, so how is this low key helping me right now?” Your brain will start looking for answers.
How do you enjoy solo time without feeling lonely?
There were parts of this vlog where I was fully by myself. V let me stay at her apartment, and then she dipped out of town. No roommate. No dog. Just me, my camera, and an espresso machine that changed my standards forever.
Solo time can feel scary when you are used to noise. Here is what made it feel peaceful instead of lonely:
- I treated her apartment with care. Cleaned, grabbed little thank you gifts, wrote a card. That kept me in gratitude instead of “I am alone.”
- I made little rituals. Coffee, music, getting ready, talking to the vlog like I am on FaceTime with yall.
- I stayed focused on why I was there. This was a work trip, a fun trip, and a “test run” for what my life could look like in that city.
Alone does not mean abandoned. Sometimes it means you finally have room to hear your own thoughts without everyone else’s opinions in the background.
Should you move back to a city that once felt heavy?
In the car, I talked about Atlanta a lot. Part of me misses it. Part of me remembers why I left. That is real.
Here is the difference this time:
Before, I was around people who drained me. Now, when I visit, I am with friends who feed my spirit, push me in the gym, help me network, open their homes, and cheer me on.
Same city, new version of me, new circle.
If you are asking yourself whether you should move back somewhere, ask these questions:
- Am I going back to the same version of me that left, or a new one?
- Do I have healthy people there now, or would I be alone rebuilding?
- Does this city line up with where I see my life in 2 to 3 years?
You do not have to decide today. Let yourself sit in “maybe.” Visit. Work from there for a bit. See how your body feels in the grocery store, on the highway, in the gym. Your nervous system will tell you a lot.
What role do habits play when life feels a little chaotic?
Even on a trip, I stick to a few anchors:
- Moving my body
- Feeding myself real food
- Keeping up with content
- Pouring into friendships that pour back
During this vlog, that looked like gym sessions that humbled my core strength, bowling nights, Chipotle bowls, podcast editing, and a full photo shoot for future projects.
Those routines make everything else feel lighter. When I am lifting, laughing, and creating, I do not feel like life is happening to me. I feel like I am co-creating it with God and with the version of me I am stepping into.
You will not rely on “motivation” forever. You will rely on habits that match the life you say you want. Even small ones count.
A reminder for the girl who is trying to control every detail
If you are reading this with 14 tabs open in your brain, trying to plan the perfect move, the perfect trip, the perfect content schedule, hear me:
You do not need to control every detail to build a beautiful life.
You just need to keep showing up for yourself, one choice at a time.
Next time something shifts, try this:
- Take one deep breath before reacting.
- Say, “Everything always works out in my favor, even when I cannot see it yet.”
- Look for one tiny way this change helped you slow down, fix something, or come out better prepared.
That is how trust is built. Not in theory, but in traffic, in late texts, in outfit changes on the studio floor.
You do not have to have it all figured out. You just have to keep moving like your life is allowed to turn out better than you pictured.
