Key Takeaways
- 1Feeling tired of yourself is not a flaw, it is usually a sign that your habits do not match the life you say you want.
- 2Real change begins when self awareness meets that deep “I am fed up” feeling, not when you write a pretty list of goals.
- 3One or two small non negotiable habits create more growth than a huge routine you never stick to.
- 4Accountability works best when it feels honest and slightly uncomfortable, whether you share online or check in with one trusted person.
- 5A bad day does not erase your progress, it just offers another chance to choose a different pattern next time.
If you have ever typed “what to do when you are tired of yourself” or “how to get your life together again” into Google at 2 a.m., you are my people. I have been there. Waking up late, scrolling in bed, skipping the gym, then asking why the whole day feels off. At some point you look around and think, “I am young, so why do I feel 50 and stuck in the same loop every day?”
I am Alyssa, and I have spent the last eight years sharing my growth, self love work, and mindset shifts with hundreds of thousands of you on YouTube. This season of my life has been all about holding myself accountable in real time, on camera, so I want to walk through what is actually happening when you feel tired of yourself and how to use that feeling as the start of real change.
Why Do You Feel So Tired Of Yourself?
Let us be honest. You are not tired of you as a person. You are tired of your habits.
You say you want an earlier morning, then hit snooze three times. You say you want to move your body, then skip the gym for the fifth day in a row. You say you want better routines, then watch another “that girl” vlog instead of picking one tiny thing to do differently.
That gap between what you say you want and what you actually do creates:
- low self trust
- guilt halfway through the day
- the sense that every day blends together
It feels heavy, and you start talking to yourself like, “You cannot even do basic tasks, what is wrong with you?”
Nothing is wrong with you. You are just stuck in autopilot. Your brain loves the path it already knows, even if that path makes you unhappy. Once you see that clearly, the feeling of being “over it” is not a sign that you are failing. It is the alarm for a new season.
What Happens Right Before Your Life Actually Starts To Change?
People think change starts when you write cute goals in a notebook. Real change starts when you reach that “I am so done with this version of me” point.
There are two things at that moment:
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Self awareness
You finally see the pattern. You notice, “When I ignore my alarms, I feel off all day. When I cancel on myself, I feel miserable by noon.” -
Being fed up
Not the cute kind where you complain to your friend, then do the same thing tomorrow. The deep kind where your body feels tired of your own excuses.
When those two come together, you have fuel. You still need structure, but the energy is there. That is why in the video I literally say, “Here I am holding myself accountable by making it content.” I hit that point where I refused to live on autopilot again.
You might not film your life, and you do not need to. You just need your own version of “I am not hiding this from myself anymore.”
How Do You Start Getting Your Life Together Again?
Let us keep it simple. Not a full rebrand overnight. Just the next level of you.
1. Tell yourself the unfiltered truth
Grab a notebook or the notes app and write out one regular weekday for you right now. Hour by hour. No edits. Where do you lose time? Where do you break promises to yourself? That honesty hurts a little, and that is why it works.
2. Pick one or two “non negotiables”
Key word: one or two. Not twenty.
Examples:
- “I get out of bed within five minutes of my alarm.”
- “I move my body for ten minutes, even if it is stretching.”
- “I step outside once a day for fresh air.”
These do not need to look aesthetic. They just need to happen.
3. Make it easier for Future You
Remove some friction the night before:
- Set out gym clothes right by your bed
- Fill your water bottle and leave it on your nightstand
- Plug your phone in across the room so you have to stand up to turn off the alarm
You are not “lazy.” You are human. A tiny bit of prep makes the morning feel less like climbing a mountain.
4. Track wins, not perfection
Make a simple habit tracker, use a whiteboard, or write “W” in your calendar on days you show up for your tiny promise. You are training your brain to see yourself as someone who keeps her word, even with small things. That identity shift matters more than a flawless routine.
How Can You Hold Yourself Accountable In A Way That Fits You?
In the video, I turn my frustration into content. When I say, “Here I am holding myself accountable by making it content,” I mean that filming keeps me honest. It is hard to pretend I have it together when the camera is catching me in bed at 2 p.m.
You might use a different method:
- Text a friend a picture of you at the gym or at your desk
- Share your “morning win” on your close friends story
- Keep a private “proof” album in your phone with photos of you doing the habit
- Join a community where everyone checks in on their goals
Accountability should feel a little uncomfortable and very honest. It is not about shame. It is about having some kind of mirror that reflects your real patterns back to you.
What If You Mess Up Again?
You will. I say that with love.
You will sleep in again at some point. You will skip a workout. You will have a day where you say, “I am tired of myself,” even after weeks of doing better.
That does not send you back to square one. That just means you are human, with new awareness.
When that happens:
- Catch the old story in your head
- Remind yourself, “One off day does not erase my progress”
- Restart the next habit you can control, not the whole list
You do not need to turn every slip into a full spiral. The old version of you used one missed alarm as proof that you can never change. The new version says, “Okay, that happened. What now?”
A Little Homework From Your Internet Big Sis
If this spoke to you, take five quiet minutes after reading this.
Write one paragraph that starts with:
“I am tired of…”
Let it all out. Then write a second paragraph that starts with:
“I am ready to start with…”
Pick one tiny promise from that second paragraph and honor it tomorrow. Not next month. Not “when life slows down.” Tomorrow.
You do not need a perfect routine to feel proud of yourself. You just need one moment where you choose your future self over your old pattern, then another, then another.
