Key Takeaways
- 1You do not need a perfect, dramatic day to feel like the main character, you just need to treat regular moments with more intention.
- 2Mixing one responsible task with one fun plan is a simple way to balance adult life with joy in a single day.
- 3A good self care shopping trip focuses on routines and long term use, not only impulse buys for the haul.
- 4Packing gym clothes in your car is a tiny habit that removes excuses and helps you move your body even on busy days.
- 5Saying “I do not know, can you explain that” is one of the most grown things you can do when you are learning how to handle adult tasks like car maintenance.
If you have ever searched “how to romanticize everyday life as a young woman” or “how to balance fun and adult responsibilities in one day,” this is that kind of day. Nothing huge happens. No life changing announcement. Just coffee, car maintenance, shopping, a workout, a late night haul, and a girl who is trying to enjoy all of it without losing herself in the chaos. I have been sharing my life online for a few years now, and a lot of you grew with me from high school to this version of me that is still figuring out adulthood in real time.
This vlog started on one simple thought: I miss just picking up my camera and going. So that is what I did.
A Coffee Run That Turned Into A Reality Check
The day kicks off with me in the drive-thru, ordering the most dramatic drink on the menu, using a free reward. Funnel cake blondie, caramel drizzle, cold foam, sprinkles, the whole situation. When the barista handed me a huge 32 ounce cup, my first thought was, “Who needs this much coffee?”
Then I remembered I said “large” and “extra everything.”
The drink tasted way better than I expected. More coffee, less pure sugar, which is rare for that spot. Still, I had that moment where I heard myself joking about “liquid diabetes” and had to catch it. My family has health stuff that runs in it. I want to enjoy cute drinks and treats, but I refuse to speak sickness over myself for views or jokes.
Tiny lesson right there: you can enjoy the fun parts of life and still stay aware of what you are feeding your body and your brain. Both matter.
Passenger princess update: my little sister got me a stuffed Pomeranian for Christmas, since I do not have a real dog yet. We spent way too long trying to name her. Poom Poom, Pom Pom, Wawa, Paula with a “paw.” Nothing fully stuck, which feels very on brand for me right now. Even my fake dog is in her “figuring it out” phase.
How Do You Balance Fun And Adult Stuff In One Day?
Before I could swipe a single gift card, I had to handle something very grown: an oil change.
On paper, car maintenance is not cute. It is loud, it smells weird, and I spent a solid minute trying to find the hood latch while reminding everyone, “I swear I am just a girl.” The tech walked me through wipers, tire rotation, engine cleaners, and all those little “add this for only twenty more” upgrades.
Here is what I did:
- Said yes to what my car actually needed
- Said no to the extra products I am not ready to pay for
- Asked questions instead of pretending I knew everything
That is the part people forget when they talk about “that girl” energy. You can have pretty nails, a fun drink, and a cute vlog, and still not know where your hood latch is. That does not make you less grown. The adult part comes in when you are willing to learn and you are not afraid to say, “I do not know, can you explain that?”
So if you are trying to balance fun and real life, let your day look like that. Handle one responsible thing. Then go do something that fills you up.
What Should You Buy On A Self Care Shopping Day?
After the oil change side quest, it was time for the reward: Ulta, Sephora, Target, and the mall with my cousin, her friend, and a very curious kid who loved the camera a little too much.
I had gift cards and some Christmas money, so I wanted to be smart. I am slowly building a makeup routine that feels grown but still like me. Here is what came home with me:
- Nars Radiant Creamy Concealer – something I have used before and trust
- ColourPop blush in a deeper shade that actually shows up on my skin
- Laura Mercier translucent powder to lock everything in
- New jeans from American Eagle in a long length that fits my tall girl legs
At Target, I grabbed two books for an upcoming road trip: a spicy thriller (The Boyfriend) and a self growth book, The Courage to Be Disliked. I have seen that blue cover everywhere, and the timing felt right. I am in a season where I care less about perfect first impressions and more about quiet confidence, so reading that on the road feels fitting.
Then I got home and opened a surprise: PR from Glow Recipe. A cleanser, serum, and moisturizer that focus on skin barrier health. When I say this felt full circle, I mean it. They were one of the first brands to notice me back when I was just figuring out content.
Here is my rule for “self care shopping” now:
- Buy things that support your routines, not just your mood in the moment
- Focus on products you will use weekly, not once for a haul
- Let at least one thing be just for fun, purely because it makes you smile
You do not need a cart full of stuff to feel taken care of. A few solid pieces that work with your actual life go a long way.
Moving Your Body When You Really Do Not Feel Like It
Earlier in the video I admitted I skipped my usual morning gym time. Old me would have used that as a reason to skip the whole day. This time, I packed clothes in my car and stopped at Hotworx at night instead.
Fifteen minutes in a heated class does not sound dramatic, but with the bike, core work, and arm movements, it added up fast. I was sweating, my rolls were rolling, and I was low key out of breath on camera.
I did something very simple: told the truth. I said I gained weight, I do not do enough cardio, and my eating habits sometimes win. Then I reminded myself out loud that my height spreads it out and that it is fixable.
If you are in a similar place, pick one small decision that supports your body, not ten. Pack your clothes in your car so you cannot use the “I went home first” excuse. Take the class. Go on the walk. Stretch in your room. Your future self is not going to complain that you moved.
Let The Little Moments Count
The vlog ends back home at 11:30 p.m., eating a wrap quietly so I do not wake my grandparents, scanning receipts, flipping through new books, and opening skincare. On the surface, it is not a big day. No flights. No designer bags. No huge plot twist.
That is exactly why it matters.
Most of life looks like this:
- Running small errands
- Saying no at the right time so your money lasts
- Learning how your car works
- Finding jeans that actually fit your body
- Testing blush in the Ulta aisle
- Booking a workout before you talk yourself out of it
- Reading one chapter of a book that shifts how you see yourself
If you want to feel like the main character, stop waiting for a perfect, cinematic day. Start with one regular day where you treat your errands, your body, your money, and your time with respect.
Tonight, before you fall asleep, ask yourself: What is one tiny part of tomorrow I can romanticize on purpose? Your coffee run, your playlist in the car, the way you do your skincare, or even the fact that you finally book that oil change. Pick one and give it your full attention. That is where real “it girl” energy starts.
