Key Takeaways
- 1The way you talk about yourself becomes a script your mind quietly follows.
- 2Getting back into the gym after a long break starts with lowering the bar and showing up for one simple workout.
- 3Clearing one small corner of your space often makes it easier to clear mental clutter too.
- 4Solo dates with your journal turn vague goals into real plans you can act on.
- 5Progress can look like earlier wakeups, slightly lighter weights, and one tiny habit that you repeat until it feels normal.
If you clicked on this after searching how to get back into the gym after a long break or how to be consistent again, I see you. I filmed this on one of those days where I finally got out of bed before noon, dragged myself to a workout, and tried to remember who I am when I follow through. I have been sharing my life online for years, and I still have seasons where my discipline feels like it packed its bags and left.
This vlog was not some perfect glow-girl day. It was messy, sweaty, awkward, and honest. Which is exactly why it matters.
“I Always Fall Off” – Why Your Self Talk Matters So Much
Lately my brain has loved sentences like:
- “I am always inconsistent.”
- “I can never wake up early.”
- “I keep falling off.”
When you repeat those lines over and over, your mind starts treating them like instructions. You wake up late again, skip the workout again, scroll instead of doing laundry again, and then point at the pattern like proof.
So the first tiny shift I made in this video was catching myself in real time. I literally started to say, “I hate getting out of bed in the morning,” then stopped and rephrased it. That sounds small, yet that is exactly where your identity starts to shift.
Try this:
- Swap “I am lazy” for “I am learning how to show up for myself.”
- Swap “I always quit” for “I am practicing consistency.”
- Swap “I can’t wake up early” for “I am experimenting with earlier mornings.”
You are not lying to yourself. You are giving your brain a new script.
How do you get back into the gym after a long break?
In the vlog I went back to two very different workout spaces: Hotworx and a regular crowded gym.
Hotworx felt safe. Tiny sauna, lights low, one screen, just me and the instructor on the TV. I booked two short sessions, sweated my life away for 30 minutes, and left feeling like, “Okay girl, we still got it.”
The big gym felt brutal. Full parking lot, packed floor, machines taken, and me in shorts that felt too tight, trying to remember my warmup. I picked up weights that used to feel light and they felt heavy. I forgot how to set up my hip thrusts. I could feel every pair of eyes that probably were not even looking at me.
Here is what helped:
- I went in with a tiny plan: hip thrusts, RDLs, one round of cardio. Not a full blown two hour workout.
- I lowered the weight until it felt doable instead of trying to match my “old numbers.”
- I let it be humbling without letting it be a reason to quit again.
If your first day back in the gym feels rough, that does not mean you failed. It means your body needs time to remember. Give it that time.
What if your whole life feels cluttered, not just your routine?
In between workouts, you see me facing the other side of “falling off” – the laundry pile, the crowded room, the suitcase energy even though I am living in a temporary spot.
When your space looks chaotic, your brain often follows. I am not a minimalist, so I am not about to tell you to throw away your whole closet. I am learning to ask better questions:
- Do I actually wear this or is it just taking up mental space?
- Can this stay in storage so my daily space feels lighter?
- What is one tiny area I can clear today: a basket, a drawer, the top of a dresser?
You do not need a full home makeover. One small load of laundry, one bag of clothes for donation, or one cleared corner can change how you feel in your room.
How do you stop calling yourself lazy and actually move?
One thing you see in the vlog is me sitting in the parking lot, smoothie in hand, hyping myself up to walk into the gym. Not scrolling “motivation.” Not waiting to magically feel ready. Just sitting with the discomfort and picking a time limit.
I literally told myself, “When this smoothie is done, we are going in.” That was it.
Here are a few tricks you can steal:
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Attach action to a tiny cue.
“When my coffee is finished, I start my workout.”
“When this episode ends, I start my laundry.” -
Lower the bar on purpose.
Aim for 20 minutes, not perfection. One Hotworx session. One short walk. One machine at the gym. -
Talk to future you.
“How will I feel in two hours if I show up right now?”
“How will I feel if I skip again?”
You do not need a full personality change. You need one brave move in a boring moment.
Solo sushi, journals, and rebranding your life slowly
At the end of the day I took myself on a solo sushi date. Yes, I had groceries at home. Yes, I knew I would feel bloated later. I still went.
Why? I needed a reset that felt special. I brought my notebook, ordered my favorite rolls, sat at the bar, and started writing:
- What do I actually want this year to feel like?
- What habits do I want to rebuild slowly instead of sprinting for two weeks then quitting?
- What content do I want to create that aligns with who I am now, not who I was two years ago?
You do not have to wait for someone else to invite you out to sit with your goals. Take your journal somewhere you love, even if it is a coffee shop or your own balcony, and let your mind catch up with your life.
Gut health, tiny mornings, and letting progress look boring
The next morning I did not wake up at 7 again. It was closer to 10. Old me would have thrown the whole “morning person” identity in the trash.
Instead, I counted the win: I was still up earlier than my usual noon schedule. That is progress.
I made a smoothie, took my sea moss, added chia seeds, picked almond milk on purpose, and talked about my gut health like the grandma that I am inside. That part might seem random, yet it matters. When your body feels off, your mind usually follows.
A few ideas you can try:
- Pick one gentle thing for your body in the morning: warm lemon water, a short stretch, a simple breakfast with protein.
- Pick one thing for your mind: a five minute brain dump, reading a page of something that inspires you, or one honest affirmation.
- Let “better than yesterday” count, even if it is not picture perfect.
You do not need a perfect streak. You need proof that you can choose yourself again after a messy season.
A small challenge for you
If you are reading this, here is your homework from your internet big sister:
- Write down three sentences you say about yourself that keep you stuck. Cross them out. Rewrite each one in a way that supports the life you want.
- Pick one tiny action you can repeat this week: a 15 minute walk, one load of laundry, two gym visits, or one solo date with your journal.
Your identity is not locked in as “the girl who always falls off.” You are allowed to be the girl who gets up again, even if her legs burn in the gym and her laundry basket is overflowing. That version of you already exists. Every small decision you make pulls her closer.
